I didn't read earlier posts properly when I speed read all 39 pages in this thread, especially the one by cjalbert on page 19. I thought that the Toshiba 8 bluetooth stack (
http://www.sitecom.com/download/4791/toshiba_8.htm) recommended by xoppa had to recognise my Trust/Atheros bluetooth dongle, which it didn't... so I thought I was stuck and I couldn't get my RVL-CNT-01-TR to work. Reading page 19 again I realised I had to edit the tosrfusb.inf installed by the Toshiba 8 bluetooth stack application. In the file tosrfusb.inf found at C:\Program Files (x86)\Toshiba\Bluetooth Toshiba Stack\Drivers\tosrfusb I had to input the Hardware ID for my dongle: %TosrfUsb.DeviceDesc150%=TosrfUsb_Device, USB\VID_0CF3&PID_3002 under both the first list and the second x64 list, and I entered a name TosrfUsb.DeviceDesc150 = "Trust 17772 Atheros Bluetooth USB Controller" in the last list in the tosrfusb.inf file. All edited in notepad in Windows 7. I then opened the Add New Connection program under TOSHIBA in my programs list, it completed the install because it recognised my bluetooth dongle. I then followed these instructions:
1. Click to pair a new device (by right clicking on the new blue bluetooth icon in the Windows system tray, this opens the Toshiba bluetooth application), follow the instructions and press the 1 and 2 button on the TR remote enter discovery mode. The remote should now be listed as paired device.
2. Right click the TR and select connect, a dialog pops up.
3. Press the A button on the remote and click OK on the dialog.
4. The remote should be connected now, but no leds. Check this by pressing the A button, no leds should blink. If leds start to blink restart from 2.
5. Open Dolphin (first close if it was still open), make sure it has the code changes stated above, hit the Wiimote button and press refresh.
6. One led on the TR should light up indicating it's number and the TR rumbles. If not hit refresh again or restart from 2.
My new black RVL-CNT-01-TR now works and I can have both that and my red RVL-CNT-01 paired in Dolphin! Awesome

I'm now a once again a happy Dolphin user
The only issue now is that the Toshiba application is saying "Evaluation Period 30 days"

any suggestions how to solve this problem? Can I pay for it somewhere?