Yeah it does. If she is genuinely mentally ill her care could be covered under insurance. The question for concern is whether you will have to move or if there's anyone else to cover expenses during her recovery. You are from the USA correct? I just want to be sure what I'm saying is relevant to you.
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04-27-2015, 03:58 AM
(04-27-2015, 03:55 AM)Xtreme2damax Wrote: Yeah it does. If she is genuinely mentally ill her care could be covered under insurance. The question for concern is whether you will have to move or if there's anyone else to cover expenses during her recovery. You are from the USA correct? I just want to be sure what I'm saying is relevant to you. Yeah, I'm from the USA and I don't there's anyone else, and yes I would have to move 04-28-2015, 08:38 AM
hey there!
first of all, it's great you found the courage to realize your mum's problems and to post them here to seek help for her and yourself! i think, that is already a first step in the right direction. but of course an online forum can hardly be a full alternative to a real person of trust. so my first advice would be, to find one or more such persons and talk to them about it, and not feel so alone with your problems. i gathered from your posts, that your dad does not really seem to have the sensibility for that. but do you have any other relatives or friends, that care about you and your mom, and might be able to help with advice or just as someone you can talk to and has an open ear? apart from emotional support the opinions of an expert would of course be helpful. the best advice would be from a professional like a psychiatrist, psychologist or neurologist, but as you said, you need transportation to get there, and presumably money to pay any fees. but there maybe other and free solutions to get some kind of professional help: is there maybe a psychological counselor in your college offering free counseling to students? i guess there must be at least some general psychological telephone hotline available in your vicinity, or at least in your country. but nonetheless, here is my personal - although not so professional - advice: regarding your mother's condition: it's a bit hard, to determine what the actual problem is, especially since i'm no expert. it could be a form of scizophrenia, or maybe "just" very strong religious beliefs or delusions. a mental illness may actually be treatable, but the problem is, that such patients do not believe they are ill at all. in my country (Austria), compulsory committal to a mental hospital is only possible, if the person is a threat to himself or others. since i do not think this is the case here, your only option would be to talk her into seeking help. but as you stated, that would be very difficult. but nonetheless, i guess you should continue to try and talk sense into her and to get her to seek help. but i'm stil not so sure, how much help she actually needs. do you think she will eventually be a threat to herself, or to you or your sister? do you think, she will head into a direction, where she will not be able to handle her financial affairs, livelihood and also the caring of your underage sister? i guess there are a lot of people out there with far out beliefs, actually living a pretty stable life. of course you don't have to share her beliefs or help her in her strange business-endeavours. but maybe leaving her with her believes would not have severe consequences at all. but imho the most important thing is that YOU find a way to live and cope with this situation. if you continually find it unbearable, maybe it is time to take your life into your own hands and try to get a bit of distance. since you are already in college, i guess you are old enough to move out, find your own place to live, maybe find a part-time-job to be able to finish your college. of course it is great, if you want to help your mother and stick around, but only if you can find a basis you can live with (which i assume is very hard). and maybe with enough space between you and your mom, you can continue some sort of relationship, in which you can have an eye on her and your sister but have the distance you need. so there is no need to "disown" her, as some others have suggested. regarding her trying to change your belief: tell her this, maybe it helps: a belief is not something we freely choose or switch by the push of a button, but something which comes to us through experience, thought or maybe even (self- or divine) revelation. thus it can't be forced onto someone. or to tell her in her own words: if god wants you to believe in him, he will instill this belief in you over time. but apart from that, your belief is your own business! and maybe one additional note: no matter what courses of action you take: try to look out for your sister. i don't know how good your relation is with her, but i guess, when the time comes for her to realize the delusions of your mom (if it comes), she will also feel alone, confused and maybe questioning her own conviction. then i guess it will be great for her to have a caring brother she can turn to. and if your mother should really come to a point, where she cannot provide or care for your sister anymore, you can maybe help find someone who can. all in all: find the strength to hold on, there are surely better times ahead! and find the strength to push your life into the directions YOU want it to go. i wish you all the best for sure! 04-28-2015, 09:47 AM
^ Couldn't have said it better.
I would look around. Sometimes you can get a free consult from someone. Don't wait too long and let your mom get worse. In the meantime try to be patient and spend time with her. Try to be rational and understanding and perhaps you might get through to her. 04-29-2015, 01:12 PM
I just joined this form so I could comment on this thread. You could try talking with the people at your college's student health center for advice with regards to helping your mom. I'm sorry to hear about this and hope things get better for you and your family!!
06-13-2015, 02:14 PM
(This post was last modified: 06-13-2015, 02:18 PM by werewolfyman.)
Fuck everything.
My Mom went to Portland Oregon for the weekend, on a "business trip" She bought fucking plane tickets for a 3 day trip but oh well I can't do shit about it so yeah, fuck everything just needed to vent somewhere so I don't do something stupid and this thread seemed apropos 06-13-2015, 02:31 PM
portland is an excellent place
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well, that would be bad
in my experience, family is family, and burning that bridge usually results in a shitty feeling. better to believe that your family has your back and be disappointed than be cynical about something that important imo
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